I have regrets - A deep exhale from a perpetual optimist
I think the world we live in today everyone likes to say that everything is always fantastic and there has never been anything wrong, nor will there ever be. If people do talk about how there was something wrong it is almost always talked about as being in the past and something they don’t regret.
On the other hand, for the people who do accept their past regrets, it’s quite popular to see them turn their regretful experiences into the next inspirational story. On the surface, I don't have a problem with people turning their struggles into inspiration. I think the toughest things people go through in life can be the greatest gifts given to them. However, in these stories of conquering regret, people always seem to turn things around so quickly—their lives bounce back so fast.
When it comes to sharing regretful actions, whether it's doing something, or not doing something, people often skip over how painful those times were. Regret is a pain that manifests itself into a fear that paralyzes the victim, often for a longer time than a condensed success story could properly tell.
Usually, to get rid of fear, the best bet to face it head-on. The idea is a little twist on the famous Joseph Cambell quote, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek”. The treasure that can be found from facing your fears is the feeling of being truly content.
However, facing fear is easier said than done and is often accompanied by numerous questions of doubt. How can you withstand the pain you experience? When will you truly conquer fear? Will the lingering pain ever fully fade away?
In all honesty, I don't think that the battle is a one-and-done situation, which seems even scarier.
Conquering fear to get rid of regret is a long and patient process that people don't like to talk about. Fear is a cave that can be painful, and walking back into it over and over again can make you end up feeling worse and having more regrets than you began with.
Nevertheless, you keep going back in because that cave has the treasure you truly want: the relief from regret, the comfort of finally being free from the past.
Turning something negative into something positive is the most challenging thing any person can do.
The ability to turn life’s pitfalls into triumphs says everything about a person's character. When a person truly turns a negative experience to a positive one you can be sure it wasn't something they did with ease, but rather that it was a grueling process that required their full effort and utmost determination.
Those moments in life when its most painful—when it makes you hurt or feel terrible about yourself—those are the moments that have the potential to help you grow the most. Growth and healing might not happen in a day, or a week, or maybe even a month, but it can
Allow yourself to feel the full depth of your emotions, to contemplate them, and to understand why you hurt. Take a few deeps breaths. Most importantly though remember it is those strenuous moments of facing fear that can push you forward and out of your regret.